how to increase/reduce penis sensitivity? best climax control tips

Take control of your climax! According to research, some people report they cannot orgasm at all (around 15% of women and 5% of men)! Having a pleasurable sexual experience doesn’t require an orgasm, and people have different preferences on how long they’d like sex to last. 

However, many people find themselves desiring a change in their sex duration. Whether you want sex to be longer or shorter, read on to uncover the best climax control tips and information on increasing and decreasing penis sensitivity.

Key Takeaways (TL;DR) Penis Sensitivity and Climax Control 

• People with penises can experience changes or differences in their penis sensitivity - ranging from intense hypersensitivity to low sensitivity or numbness, which can shorten or lengthen (respectively) the time to orgasm. 

• While the duration of sexual activity is not a direct correlation to success or pleasure, some seek to gain a better grasp on their climax control. 

• To help you understand your body better and orgasm on your own terms, we have outlined a list of climax control tips that can help you climax faster or slower, depending on your desires! 

• Plus, we uncover sexual health products that can lead to better, more pleasurable sex for you and your partner(s) ;)

What is an Orgasm? 

Orgasm, or often called the climax, describes the peak of sexual pleasure and the release of tension after stimulation (typically of the genitals). In people with penises, this is usually combined with ejaculation, where semen is expelled from the penis. However, sometimes people can experience dry orgasms, where no fluid is expelled. This can be due to factors like medicine, surgeries, multiple orgasms, etc. Orgasms often last a few seconds and are accompanied with intense pleasure and muscle contractions.

Penis Sensitivity: The Facts

Penis sensitivity is the ability to feel or respond to touch or pressure on the penis. You can experience both hypersensitivity or low sensitivity (numbness), due to stress, hormone changes, nerve damage and more. Both of these stressors can have negative impacts on your sex life. Hypersensitivity can lead to irritation, discomfort, and premature ejaculation and low sensitivity can be associated with erectile dysfunction (ED) and delayed ejaculation.

What Causes Penis Sensitivity? 

The causes of changes or differences in penis sensitivity can include: 

• Medications - Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors or SSRIs, which are typically taken to treat mental health disorders like depression and anxiety, can limit your ability to maintain an erection and can be the cause of delayed ejaculation or decreased sex drive. 

• Mental Health - Stress and anxiety can be a cause of both premature and delayed ejaculation. Performance anxiety can lead some people to orgasm faster than they would like to and stress can decrease your ability to focus on the sexual encounter and lead to delayed ejaculation or ED. Individuals with depression are at a high risk as well with up to 50% of depression patients experiencing a sexual health condition before taking medications or seeking treatment. 

• Blood Flow Issues - Some diseases that affect the heart or flow of blood can cause numbness or ED, this is often because the amount of blood required to get or maintain an erection is not being directed to the penis. In some cases this can be due to improper condom fit, because standard condoms are too tight for 50% of people*. Tight condoms can make it so blood flow is constricted to the point where there’s not enough blood going to the penis in order to keep an erection. That’s why it’s important to make sure the condom is the correct length and girth!

• Age - While age is not a direct reflection on when or if you will experience penis sensitivity issues, ED is often more common in older men and can sometimes be associated with underlying diseases like heart disease or diabetes. Premature ejaculation can be more common in younger men due to lack of sexual experience and feelings of new sensations.

What is the Most Sensitive Part of the Penis? 

The frenulum is the most sensitive part of the penis. It is the small flap of skin that connects the foreskin to the head of the penis, it looks like a small ‘V’ on the underside of the penis. If you are circumcised, the frenulum is located on the underside of the penis where the head meets the shaft. While this is a highly sensitive part of the penis, it can be different for everyone. The best way to discover what type of sexual touch feels best is through masturbation, you can try different grips, techniques, lubes, toys, and stimulants and find what works for you.

How to Reach Orgasm: Climax Control Tips 

What is Premature Ejaculation?

Premature ejaculation is one of the most common sexual dysfunctions (one study found that it affects up to 31% of men) and occurs when someone with a penis ejaculates quicker than they desire. Oftentimes premature ejaculation is used to describe ejaculation that occurs with less than one minute of penetration, however there is no one optimal length for penetration or sexual contact. It is dependent on what you and your partner find is right for you.

How to Decrease Penis Sensitivity

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To decrease penis sensitivity or make sex last longer, there are a few tips and tricks you can consider trying to treat premature ejaculation. Climax control tips for lasting longer in bed include: 

• Edging - Edging (a more common name for Semans’ Stop-Start Technique) is a practice that can be used to prolong a sexual experience and make an orgasm more intense. You start by engaging in sexual activity and right when you feel an orgasm coming and hit that “edge” then you slow down or stop stimulation immediately. Once the feeling of being ready to orgasm subsides, then you can resume sexual stimulation. Basically, you can keep “edging” yourself or your partner until you feel as though you are ready to climax. 

• Johnsons’ and Masters’ “Squeeze Technique” - This method is similar to edging in the part where you engage in sexual stimulation until the brink of orgasm, but instead of stopping you squeeze near the frenulum for 15-30 seconds (until the feeling goes away), then you can continue this until you want to finish. 

• Pelvic Exercises aka Kegels - Clenching and releasing your pelvic floor muscles, or kegels (similar to the feeling when you are trying to hold your bladder) can lead to improved bladder and climax control! By tightening your pelvic floor muscles for around 10-15 seconds and releasing, a few times a day, you can strengthen your pelvic floor health and gain better control of your sexual health. 

• Masturbation - If you would like to lengthen a sexual encounter, it can be helpful to masturbate about 1-2 hours before sex. This can help treat sexual tension, performance anxiety, and curb heightened arousal when the time comes, acting as a natural way to give you more control of your ejaculation. 

• Condoms and Lube - For more sensitive penises, penetrative sex may be incredibly intense, which results in a shorter length in penetration before orgasm. Some helpful ways to last longer can include reducing friction through the use of personal lubricant. Lube can be purchased in water-based, hybrid, and silicone-based formulas to match your preference. You can also try a MyONE® condom that has a Girth Number (condom circumference) that is a little too tight. A condom that’s too tight can restrict blood flow to the penis. In addition, there are condom brands on the market that are made with thicker latex, often marketed as “Extra Strong” or “Extra Thick Latex.” Our ONE® Glowing Pleasures™ is also a thicker condom, because it needs extra layers of latex to make it glow in the dark. Because these condoms have extra layers of latex, they create a bigger barrier between you and your partner – allowing penetration without overstimulation.

• Cock rings - Cock rings act like a tourniquet on the penis that restrict blood flow and reduce sensitivity. Make sure you read the instructions carefully, start out with a silicone ring (instead of metal), and remove it immediately if you feel discomfort or pain. 

• Numbing Creams and Sprays - If the above methods are not working out for you there are products out there designed to reduce sensation by numbing sensitive areas. These products come in the form of creams and sprays, while they decrease sensation, they do not make you completely numb, just allow you to have less intense stimulation. When selecting a numbing product, ensure that it is compatible with all of the other sexual health products you will be using, like toys and condoms.

• Consult Your Doctor - If you are concerned about your sexual health or believe that your penis sensitivity may be affected by an underlying health condition, talking to your doctor can be a great idea. They may be able to offer medications, or refer you to a sex therapist or other specialist, who can discover potential causes and identify solutions that are fit for you and your needs.

What is Delayed Orgasm? 

Delayed orgasm is the frequent recurrence in the inability or heightened difficulty to ejaculate, even when experiencing pleasurable sexual stimulation. This condition affects around 3% of men and while it does not lead to erectile dysfunction it can be linked to the common condition with similar causes.

How to Increase Penis Sensitivity

To increase penis sensitivity or speed up ejaculation, there are a few practices that can improve stimulation and lead to a faster orgasm. Some of the ways to cum faster include: 

• Masturbation - That’s right! Masturbation can be used to speed up and delay an orgasm, however the methods are a bit different. Masturbating to delay an orgasm includes experimentation. Experimenting with different stimulations, grips, toys, finding new erogenous zones, changing the lighting, and whatever you find pleasurable, can lead to a quicker orgasm. If you find that touching a specific part of your body or a type of stimulation that gets you there, share it with your partner. Communicating your needs can help take sex to the next level, and your partner may thank you for guiding them in the right direction. For more tips and tricks, check out our educator friend Caitlin V on Youtube!

• Alternative Positions - There are so many different ways to have sex and you may enjoy one better than the last. Again, experimenting is so important to discovering new ways to have fun with your partner(s). So, next time you are finding it difficult to reach an orgasm try switching to a new (or your tried and true!) position that may help speed things up. 

• Condoms and Lube - Condom technology keeps improving! Maybe the condoms you currently use are decreasing the stimulation you feel. There are now condoms enhanced with graphene that increase body heat transfer, condoms with a pleasure enhancing pouch that feels like a sex toy, and condoms that are thin so you can get closer. An improper condom fit also leads to common condom fit challenges like slippage, erection loss, painful red rings, and breakage. If you need a better condom fit, get a sample kit of MyONE® Custom Fit®’s 52 condom sizes. A condom shouldn’t feel like a cock ring (unless you want it to!). Experience more of your partner while maintaining safer sex practices by testing out a variety of condom styles, brands and sizes. And of course, as a condom company we have a few tricks up our sleeve for more pleasurable experiences. Our pro tip: Try putting a drop of lube inside of the condom before putting it onto the penis ;) This increases sensation and gives the condom a more natural feel.

• Consult Your Doctor - If you are concerned about your sexual health or believe that your decreased penis sensitivity may be due to an underlying health condition, talking to your doctor can be a great idea. They may be able to offer medications or refer you to a sex therapist or other specialist who can discover potential causes and identify solutions that are fit for you and your needs.